When we try to control, we lose control
In our lives, we have so much of likes and dislikes.
We have so much of desires too – desire to control the event, desire to change the other person etc.
Why there is always disharmony in us?
It is because we always have the desire to control or change other person.
There is desire for approval too.
We are leading our lives for the sake of others.
Even though we are fully secured, we want to save money. There is no limit for needs and desires.
If I like I will move with that person and if I do not like that person I will move away from him.
Whatever event comes to me then I decide that it should happen in a certain way and try to frame that event.
I always resist what is given to me.
I am afraid that I will be joyful and happy
Can we be without these desires?
Whatever the course the life takes let it take.
Can I watch my life myself like I watch the waves of the sea? Why I am not able to do this?
What is preventing me from observing my own life?
Because I fear that I may get back joy and innocence. Whatever the joy and innocence I had when I was five years old, I fear that I might get that back.
Though we are seekers of joy and happiness, we are not the seekers of innocence.
Is it possible to get childlike happiness?
For that there is a mantra. That is NAMASHIVAYAM.
This should be chanted in sets of five.
As I chant this mantra continuously all my desires turn into ashes.
The fear of death or the feeling of insecurity will go off.
I will come to know that I am nothing but Shiva, the ever-happy person.
Shiva means Mangalam, the person who is truly happy.
To get married – Lalitham Sadashivam is the mantra.
The mantra Lalitham Sadashivam is good one for marriage. If a marriage has to be done then it can be chanted a lot.
Love pangs, a case study
To heal love pangs – this mantra can be used. It will heal it.
A husband and wife were married for more than 60 years. Around 80 yrs of age, the husband passed away. His wife couldn’t live without him. She went through a lot of suffering, especially due to love pangs.
I gave her “Lalitham Sadashivam”. Now, she’s alright.
Male and Female Balancing
The specialty of this mantra is that for a male person, it will heal their female aspect, while for a female person it will heal their male aspect. Thus, it will balance both the halves of a person.
We usually say there is a “male-female imbalance”. We say that ‘I cannot live without someone’ or ‘I cannot be without them’. You can be without any person in this world. That is the meaning of this mantra because you are complete by yourself.
To realize the truth that “You are total and complete by yourself” is the purpose and greatness of this mantra.
You gave this mantra for marriage, and then you are suggesting that this will help us live without any person in this world!! Marriage means two people living together right? We do not understand.
The mantra means you can live without anyone. But, let us see why it is a good mantra for marriage? It makes the person total and complete. Lalitham Sadashivam – the inner meaning is “Ardha Nareeswara” – a perfect blend of male and female.
The meaning is not that no one should marry. What is marriage? If you are a female, and when you go in search of a male, you will select the right person. This happens because your male-female aspects are in balance.
Right person will come to you. When there are 7 or 8 choices, this mantra will help so that the most-fitting person will become your husband.
We did not have this mantra when we got married. For those who are yet to be married – you have got it now. You are all fortunate to have this mantra.